“Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.”- Aristotle
“In a controversy the instant we feel anger we have already ceased striving for the truth, and have begun striving for ourselves.”- Buddha
Rhyme-less Kyrielle Sonnet
once again you underline
everything not right in me
you pick and peck like a hen
and now I feel just worthless
anger should be my response
not just sitting back in shock
the hurt’s gone on much too long
yet each time it’s just the same
funny that for most of us
anger is to be avoided
when my problem as you see
is I cannot get mine out
tears that well up in my eyes
are anger’s condensation
For many years, I was unable to become angry. I felt sad when attacked and I usually felt that somehow, I was always in the wrong, and would just feel worthless.
Though I’ve become better at feeling angry and getting resentment out in order to defend myself from “bullies”, it is always an effort. In fact, I very rarely argue or raise my voice, and would prefer to just leave rather than face unpleasantness.
In the past I could have read Aristotle’s beginning words in the quote above and expressed some very serious doubts about just how easy it is to become angry. As for the Buddha, of course he is correct…but in fact in the above situation, a person who allows herself or himself to be bullied needs to search and to find their worth. In my opinion, that is the first truth one must seek.
Of course the situation I lived in was not a “not being angry” reality. The anger, deformed and turned inwards, was probably a part of my personality, that part of my character which wanted to be the martyr, like saying: “Look at poor me…what I have to go through as I carry the world’s troubles upon my shoulders, and now, also be mistreated.” Not so cool I think and good to go forward leaving that sort of thing in order to have a better approach to life.
The quote that is right for me is the following (uhm) with-in limits:
“Usually when people are sad, they don’t do anything. They just cry over their condition. But when they get angry, they bring about a change.” – James Russell Lowell
This was written in response to Dungeon Prompts Season Two Week Four…my response for the prompt: Anger Management.